answer to A

so recently,
a reader, A, post me a question.
i had difficulties answering it in a limited space so i've decided to post an entry about it.

basically from my understanding,
A feels upset that her boyfriend's friends is blaming her for 'taking away' their friend (her boyfriend).
she would like to know whether i've been through it and how do i cope with it.

i think i've been in your situation but i don't know whether his friends blame me.
the thing is his friends have to know that it is his decision to hang out with you instead of them.

i have to admit that friends-partner relationship is hard to juggle.
it depends on the individual why they choose to spend more time with their friends or their partner.
personally,
for the times i've been with the partner,
i spend too much time with the partner and only catch up with my friends once in a while.
i'm sure my friends have their other commitments.

for his friends, i guess you can't do anything much.
they just have to accept that their friend is finally starting to settle down and also that he has other commitments apart from them.
true friends will know and wouldn't blame you for it.

to me,
friends are just not those who meet up often with one another.
it's not the quantity but the quality that matters.
friends are those who gives you support, be there for you when you need them to and always wish for you happiness.

if you can't take it that his friends blame you,
have a talk with your partner.
you guys can have a couple dates outing or so.

A,
about something that's pulling you down,
there's something that we can't control.
we can't please everyone.
so,whatever they want to think of you,
let it be.
it definitely hurt you.
in their eyes they 'dislike' you, well it's ok.
just as long the Almighty do not dislike you, you'll be fine.
pray for them that they will open heart to see who you truly are and stop judging you.

like me,
i think there are people who dislikes me for whatsoever reasons.
but hey, i can't control it.
hopefully with this blog,
they are able to read about my life and judge for themselves.
on top of that,
i don't think i owe them any apologies.
if i did a mistake,
i would know and eventually apologize.

so A,
i hope i have ease your mind a little.
thanks for approaching me.
let me know if you have anything else.
=)