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Are You Too Boy Picky? (girlfriend.com.au)

Wondering why you never find the right guy? Perhaps you are being too picky or not picky enough. Check out our guide to finding the balance between unrealistic standards and no standards at all.

You are being too picky if:

* You have very specific ideas about who your boyf needs to be: a particular look, background, group of friends etc - and you won't consider dating until you have done a full background check to be sure he's your "type".
* You need a guy to prove himself to you over and over again, before you consider opening up to him.
* Everyone you date has something about him or her that turns you off (or turns your friends off and therefore you) before they get close a second date.


You are probably not picky enough if:

* You're willing to date anyone, whether or not they are a good match for you or even if you're not really attracted to them. * You always kiss on the first date - at least it avoids that awkward moment at the end of the date.
* You regularly get into relationships quickly and go from one to another.

If you identify more with being too picky, when you meet someone, you do not let them in deeply for fear they will not be good enough.
If you identify more with not being picky enough, you mostly end up with people who aren't a very good match for you.

Here's what you should be picky about:

- Qualities that matter in every situation: a similar value system, communication style, and level of integrity. If your potential boyf has these same qualities means the two of you will be on the same page in many aspects.
- Your partner should have the same goals as you, for a start either wanting long-term relationship or just a fun fling.
- Choosing a person who has no exes lurking around hoping to reignite the relationship.
- The person you choose should have their own friends and interests or at least be working on it. - You want someone who is not dependent on you.
- It seems obvious, but the guy should be someone you find attractive.

You probably don't need to be picky about:

- His social clique - this doesn't neccessarily define him.
- How much much money/ material wealth he has.
- Exactly how he looks. You need to be attracted to your potential boyf but, you might be surprised to find yourself attracted to someone who is not your "type."
- The person's past, as long as it has been worked through and put to rest.