the ideal partner.
a term that i wish to explore in this entry.
i won't use it to generalize everyone,
this is just from my point of view and shows, stories that i've seen, heard or read about.
those who have significant other would have experience how frustrating and blissful love is.
you have fights and arguments that may shed tears and harsh words between each other and also good romantic times that you ever wish it will end.
why do couples have arguments?
there are listless reasons on it.
eg. the girl cheated, the guy looked at other girls, the guy didn't reply to his gf's sms, etc.
but have you noticed that it all boils down to expectations?
eg. the guy is supposed to open the doors, the girl is supposed to take care of the guy when he's sick, etc.
these are all shaped by the society.
guys are supposed to be this, this, this whereas girls are supposed to be that, that, that.
both parties have expectations on what their partner are suppose to act/do.
once the expectations are not being played out,
arguments occurs and that may lead to misunderstanding while one trying to explain because the other can't understand why you have to see things in that particular view.
one of the way to have "lesser" arguments is to pick someone who is similar to you.
because at least they can understand a little better from your perspectives.
i don't really know how many stages are there is a relationships, wait until i analyze it one day.
when you first got together,
you may have more/less expectations.
more expectations may lead you to breaking up with the guy/girl because the guy/girl is not good enough for you.
whereas you will still stay on if you have a lesser expectations on your partner.
when you get to know each other much better,
your expectations increase/decrease depending on you.
once your expectations increase, argument occurs.
your expectations decrease because you know your partner well and you wouldn't want to pressure him/her. (it's the same as, i love you the way you are)
however,
when a girl is going through pms,
automatically, her expectations never decrease, instead it increases twofold!
which will lead to more arguments during pms.
the girls would expect the guys very sweet and loving to them during the period.
what i'm trying to bring across is that expectations is not static, it changes overtime depending on how you see it.
like after you read a romantic book or seen a romantic movie,
your expectations might increase because if that particular character can experienced it, why can't i?
if you're a realist,
it won't affect anything on your expectations as you know it's just fiction.
if you truly love your partner,
you would adjust your expectations accordingly but that doesn't mean to have no expectations on him/her because if not he/her won't be putting in effort to please you.
of course it will be nice to experience pleasant sweet love all the time.
=)
back to the ideal partner.
once you have adjust your expectations,
and of course your partner has to also achieve the expectations you have for him/her.
how would they know?
simple, talk about it.
discuss about your relationship once in a while, to check whether everything is good.
during that time,
tell your partner why your partner need to fulfill your expectations.
let them know how you truly feel if he/she didn't do this or that and why was there a need?
discuss about it, and come to a compromise.
by doing so,
your partner would know how much you need him/her.
and your partner would try his/her very best to fulfill it.
you always have to be prepared to make some changes if your partner wants it.
after the changes you and your partner have done,
you will love your partner more than you ever did.
you will tend to treasure your partner even more.
you realised how much he/she loves you till he/she is willing to change for you.
your partner will eventually become the ideal partner for you.
the ideal partner is someone who you always wanted for a partner.
your ideal partner would have the characteristics that you've been seeking for in a guy/girl.
and don't forget to be an ideal partner to your partner.
=)
the more you get to know more about your partner,
you realised that there are certain things that you may not agree with his/her actions, attitudes.
try to come to a compromise or you will just have to accept to live with it.
=)
the most crucial factor in a relationship apart from trust is communication.
make a better relationship for you and your partner to benefit.
i wish you success in your relationship readers!
everyone deserves to experience love.
darling,
i know you are my ideal partner.
thanks for coming over my house again and seeing me.
after so much that we've been through,
we have a much closer bond together.
i love you.
