when i was younger,
i've always have the thought of me getting married on my 22nd's birthday on 22nd december.
because i think it is one of a kind.
i'm turning 22 in months to come,
exactly 5 more months.
and it falls on a monday.
how to have a wedding on a weekday?
on top of it,
the most crucial thing,
i have no savings for i marriage, yet.
it seems that i have to forgo the idea of getting married at the age of 22.
some might think it's kinda young to settle down at such an age.
and some would question whether am i prepared to take up the new roles?
personally,
if you have found the right one (confirm plus chop, and it includes thinking about the long term),
why not?
no doubt,
your freedom to hang out with your friends are lesser and your priorities have to be adjust.
if you really don't mind,
then what is stopping you?
about preparing to take up new roles?
think about it,
most of the time,
we are not prepared of what lies ahead of us.
we had no choice but to get through it.
when new roles are tasked or given to us,
we might not be the best,
but we tried our best to play the role.
of course i am not prepared to be a wife.
one of the reasons is,
i can't cook yet.
but if i were to become a wife,
definitely,
i have to cook for my husband.
die, die also must cook.
and i am sure to try my best so that my husband will enjoy the food.
i don't see a need for me to cook now.
it's not like die die i have to cook.
because most of the time,
it's my mom who does the cooking.
but once i don't have no one to depend on,
i need to learn to survive on my own.
so what is stopping me?
firstly, $$$$$$$
secondly, the partner prefer me to experience work first.
a wedding need money.
it is not a cheap affair.
an average wedding costs up to 5 digits.
*shakes head*
no wonder people are now holding back to get married.
about the partner prefer me to experience work,
he said that he wants me to feel the pressure of work, the ability to stand on my 2 own feet.
to have full control of my life, my decisions.
and also not forgetting to set aside some amount for my parents every month.
i agree with the partner about having to work.
work is the only way to get $$$$.
without money,
you can't afford the basic need.
when i graduated from poly,
i was contemplating between working and furthering my studies.
to work means i have $$$$, and that means i can get married earlier.
while to continue on with school means i had to get married at a later age.
which i decided to go for studies since opportunity comes only once in a while and my ambition needs me to go on schooling.
so i guess i won't be married unless i'm employed and have a 5 digit in my bank account.
goodbye to the idea of getting married on my 22nd.
i made a promise to myself,
once i have a stable income,
only a small, small, small, small, small portion of it is for shopping.
while most of it will go under savings.
because i want to start a family by 25.
it's one of my personal goals that i would like to achieve.
the partner told me that his mom encourages us to have a lot of kids.
which the both of us agree,
since we love kids.
so if i were to get married late,
i can't have much kids can i?
family planning.
hah!
let just see what does god has planned for me.
=)
sweetheart,
it's just in a matter of time.
i am looking forward to have the apron on to cook for you and our children,
to do most of our activities together and to tell bedtime stories to the kids!
