yesterday the partner and i learnt a very useful lesson about conflicts.
well,
all relationships are not conflict-free.
so might as well the both of us deal with it wisely.
what we learnt was,
it's not about who has to win in the argument,
but it's how the both of us win in dealing with the conflict.
in short,
it's not atirah vs mutalib.
but instead,
it's atirah&mutalib vs the problem.
see the difference?
and so yesterday,
the both of us have an informal promise on how we are suppose to deal with the upcoming conflicts.
and we will try our very best to have the wish (i wish to be ........... during the conflict, etc) to be reality.
i know the both of us want this relationship to last and also make one another happier.
oh yes,
before we start the lesson,
we were to write down some qualities of our partner in which we respect.
and i laughed seeing the partner's answer.
one of it was nonsensical.
he respect me becasuse i am nonsensical.
yes,
i have to agree that i tend to lighten up people around me (those close ones) with my silly movements or jokes.
surprising huh?
for a tough exterior outlook lies a zany person.
i know how to have my fun healthily.
laughing!
laugh laugh laugh.
i think i go through every day of my life laughing.
i even laugh at myself when i slipped or miss a step.
i must say that the workshop does help us to build a lasting relationship.
it gives us good tips and understand our partner better.
on our way back,
as usual we tuned in to class 95.
and yesterday,
yas had dr love to talk about relationships and gender differences.
it was an interesting talk about how men and ladies cope with life.
and now the partner should know why i tend to complain.
while i know how it makes him feel whenever i am not my usual self.
i can't say that our relationship is at the peak,
because we both know there are so many things we can improve on and also to become a much better lover to one another.
the partner and i are dead serious in this relationship that we wish that we will still be husband and wife in heaven.
insyaAllah.
honey,
my wish is to make you the luckiest man ever.
i know i am not an easy girlfriend to be with,
even i can't understand myself at times.
you make me believe in faith,
because you never give up on me.
i am thankful for that.
and honey,
i really love you.
