Boy On The Rebound (taken from www.girlfriend.com)
You've got the guy of your dreams. He's perfect - affectionate, attentive and keen. He's the perfect boyfriend... except he keeps talking about his ex!
Most girls will start going out with a guy and everything's going smoothly... until the ex is back on the scene! He suddenly has to 'sort himself out' before committing to you! To avoid being the 'dumped and confused' girl, here are a few points to keep in mind when trying to spot a boy on the rebound!
THE COVERUP
Your boy could be throwing himself into another relationship, in order to cover up his heartbreak. He'll do this when he can't deal with any pain, hurt or guilt he may be feeling. He will shower you with affection, but don't be fooled. This is just to convince himself that he's happy without his ex.
What to do: First of all... enjoy the attention! Be aware that this is simply a band-aid for his pain. He is still healing from heartbreak, so take it slow. If you give each other enough time to suss out your feelings, things should end well.
THE 'FRIEND' FACTOR
OK - they've broken up, but they've remained good friends. Her photo is up on his wall, and she sometimes comes out with you. He assures you they're just friends, but how can you be sure?
What to do: It's hard when his ex is still in the picture, even if they are just friends. With her around, it's a constant reminder of the way they used to be. Remember, that you're with him now and she's not. If he assures you he's ready for something new, he's worth a chance.
STILL BITTER
This is when your boy is constantly saying bad things about his ex. He is still angry and he obviously isn't over his heartbreak.
What to do: If his attitude is annoying you, try changing the subject. If this doesn't work for you, simply assure him that your intentions are good and you won't hurt him like his ex did. If he doesn't believe you... let him go!
THE HIDE OUT
This is when he is not ready to show you off to the world. He still hopes that he and his ex can get back together, and doesn't want to ruin their chances by going out with you in public (in case someone should see you and spread the word that he's moved on).
What to do: This guy is obviously not ready for a relationship with you, so give him some space to sort things out with his ex. If he really likes you, he'll chase you when he's ready!
THE PLAYER
This guy has just broken up, but refuses to miss out on some action from the chicks. Warning - player on the loose! He doesn't want the hassle of a relationship or emotional commitment.
What to do: If you're happy to go along with his casual attitude, then do so. Proceed with caution. The person who always seems to get hurt in situations like this, is the girl.
It's easy to be jealous of your guy's last love, they did share a history after all! But don't fall into a relationship if you think the guy is not ready. Suss out the signs and if he's clear... give him a chance to prove himself.
Remember, a guy will always have a special place in his heart for his ex... but don't confuse this with him still being in love her!
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